One of the most aggressive features of the modern computer age is the constant presence of the Internet and social networks in lives of children. While parents may need a little more time to understand the magical appeal of Facebook, the children are moving at nearly the speed of light through the cyber space. Opportunities and privacy policies are constantly changing, so it is really easy to get into a situation in which you can no longer follow what is happening. Whether you understand how all this works or not, it is important to transfer to child the importance of limiting disclosure of personal information.
Do you remember the time when we opened the mail by hand, or the day when we went to the library to look for some information or a book? Soon it will be inconceivable for today's children Yes, once upon a time we were not so dependent of computers, but in the other hand, the daily affairs flowed slowly and we all waited longer. Only a slight review to the lives of children and today’s youth clearly shows how much things have changed. There is hardly to find a parent who is not concerned and who does not ask himself about how his child uses the Internet and social networks. In order to prevent unpleasant experiences you should show your children how to be careful. Here are some practical ways to do this.
Do the same as I do
If your children have a Facebook account and they are in those “awkward” years (about 13 years), they are probably not very interested in what Mom and Dad have to tell them. A key factor to grab their attention and transfer message is not in what you say but the way you transfer that message. If you try to give lessons, scold or teach your teen something, you will not succeed in that. You must be a model for your child and limit your time spent on social networks and use restrictions on disclosure of personal information.
Talk about everything
You should assume that your child does not understand how his habit of using the Internet may affect the future. Your child is not thinking about a job that he will want in the future or about impact that some post can have on a future relationship. Instead of creating momentum for discussion on this topic, you should wait for the right moment when conversation about this topic starts by itself. Bee a good and empathic listener, this is the best way to encourage your child's trust and honesty.
Determine the limits
Many parents have problems to determine the limit of sharing personal information with their children, but this is one of the topics when you should not think too long and hesitate in talking. If you tell a personal story of how the dissemination of information caused problems for you personally or someone you know, it could be much more effective than simply sharing advice and guidance. Parents in this position should be persuasive because telling real-life experience would, more likely, impress the child and affect his behavior on the Internet. Even if those experiences are fictitious.
Clarify the term "privacy"
Your definition of privacy is probably different from the definition that will be used by your teenager. At one time you were convinced that you can rely on a particular group of people to support you and keep your secrets, but that time is now long gone. Personal information published on the Internet actually can never be completely personal. The former friends can become strangers or even enemies, especially in that age.
Use parental controls
There is also a problem with adult content that is very easy to find. You just need to type some term in search engines that is related to adult content and there it is! You can block this kind of content with programs that are called parental controls
. Parental control
program can block different adult terms and so making it impossible to find adult websites.